2017 has been a seriously crazy year. I cannot believe that Mike and I will be celebrating our first wedding anniversary tomorrow. It seemed like the year of our wedding was one of the longest years of my life, but I guess that’s what happens when you have something you are constantly counting down to.. and we sold a house.. and we bought a house. Yes, we are crazy. Now that we are married for, well, ever… time is absolutely flying!
The first few months after the wedding were definitely a bummer getting used to life without having a big life event to be planning for, but I think a big part of that was definitely because it was negative 568908609 degrees outside and the most depressing time of the year in Montana. (HOORAY for January-April!) Our wedding date seemed like a good idea at the time! And it is a pretty awesome date to look forward to. How cool is it going into each new year with resolutions for life in general and for our marriage? Mike and I are pretty goal oriented people so it works out pretty well for us.
Anyway… once the initial bummed out stage was over, life turned pretty grand and we have been having the most wonderful time just having fun and enjoying life and each other. There is definitely a little different feeling that you have for your spouse once you’ve officially tied the knot, but it’s so hard to explain unless you’ve actually done it yourself. Something so official and permanent about it that makes you look at them differently I suppose. There has been a part of me that has found myself just staring at Mike at times thinking how good I did in this life. He was a pretty big, decision after all.
With all the fun times, hectic work schedules and the start of Soiree 99 Events I haven’t made much time to blog this year! I figure I better make myself get on here every once in a while since I promised that I would do so to keep an online diary of sorts to look back on years from now. Of course Mike likes it because he doesn’t have to do anything but read it. 🙂
So with today’s blog post comes AM364 (After-Marriage Day 364) as Mike would call it. No matter the relationship you are in or the length of the relationship, I thought you’d all appreciate the Newlywed lessons learned during the first year of marriage– the Newman addition.
5 Newman-Newlywed Lessons for your 1st Year of Marriage
1. For all you ladies out there, you must come to accept the fact that he is SOMETIMES, MAYBE, RARELY, BUT INDEFINITELY… going to be right…
It’s bound to happen. I know, acknowledging it is the first stage of acceptance. The longer you are together, the more it is likely to happen. Also, be prepared to be reminded over and over again… that he was right.
2. For all you men out there, if you married a woman that likes to shop (99.9% of our population), know that your budget is going to change…
and you are going to learn how many types of cosmetic appointments there are and how much feminine needs really do cost. Do we need all of it? No. Is that going to change anything? All I’m going to say is.. keep fightin’ the good fight!
3. On that lovely budget note, another tip for the ladies. Don’t think that hiding your purchases is going to do anything for you…
You have the same budget now. That’s not going to work…
4. If you haven’t read the 5 Love Languages yet, do it.
It’s the first piece of advice we give to any couple we chat with. We all communicate love and appreciation differently. Who knew all I had to do was put the dishes away to make my husband feel loved?! #Actsofservice
You can take the quiz to find out your love languages here!
5. Most importantly, remember that you are a team.
Conflict creates connection if you look at it the right way. They say the first year of marriage is supposed to be one of the hardest. I’m not sure I necessarily agree with that statement, but I do know that there are a lot of tough conversations that happen along the way! Knowing that you have chosen the right person and working through your differences together only make you a better team.
“Marriage is about becoming a team. You’re going to spend the rest of your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked the right person and you both love each other, you’ll always figure out a way to get through it.”
Cheers to making it through year 1!