You know when you are in a bad mood and just want to stay that way and feel sorry for yourself? There is always that person that comes up to you and says “it’s going to be okay!” “It’s not that bad!” And all you want to do is squash their enthusiasm?
I am that person.
It’s funny. I went into this week’s blog post with the idea of a little Fashion 101 on what to wear to a wedding, but when I sat down at my computer that is NOT what I started to write about. (Don’t worry ladies, the wedding wear blog post will be comin atcha soon!)
I suppose I am already starting to realize the life of a blogger is not nearly as superficial as posting on your Facebook page or your instagram account. Admit it, we all tend to show the best sides of ourselves when we write Facebook posts. Because really, who wants to go on Facebook and see someones’s status that says “wow my day was lame…” Ummm… dislike? They still don’t even have that button on Facebook for obvious reasons. What’s even more awkward, the people that LIKE those kind of posts! “A bird pooped on my head today”…like! Actually I might have been giggling when I typed that one. You get the jest. We use our social media world to show the ideal versions of ourselves. To show everyone how great we are doing! That is wonderful, as I enjoy seeing how my friends and family are doing that I haven’t seen in months or even years. Well my friends, I am not here today to tell you that I am doing SO great and am SO happy and life is BLISSFULLY PERFECT! I am here to tell you that sometimes life just punches you in the face. To be real with you, and then to inspire you to kick right back. hard.
It’s an interesting mentality, being an optimist. It can really get on people’s nerves sometimes. You know when you are in a bad mood and just want to stay that way and feel sorry for yourself? There is always that person that comes up to you and says “it’s going to be okay!” “It’s not that bad!” And all you want to do is squash their enthusiasm? I am that person. I live in a life of “fairy tales and rainbows” as the boyfriend would call it. Sometimes people forget that those optimists have bad days too! The difference is in how we approach the issue and how we decide to solve it.
The following are a few questions that I challenge you to ask yourself and really think about. Once we have those answers, we are going to put them together in a Happiness Prescription. I know, this sounds pretty dorky. The title of this blog post is Secrets of an Optimist, so what do you expect?!
- Question 1. What is the first thing you want to do when you are in a bad mood, go meet up with friends to get your mind off of it, or go somewhere alone?
- Question 2. What is the main comfort that you crave when you are upset? Food, your favorite book or tv show, a work out, a friend?
- Question 3. What reminders do you need most in a time of unhappiness? Comedic relief? Relaxation? Silence to find your center?
- Question 4. Treat yo’ self! What is a little pick me up that will always help mend the wound?
- Question 5. Who do you lean on? Friends, family, co-workers, team mates?
- Question 6. Once your “prescription” is done, what is going to help you get back on track and in a somewhat positive state of mind?
The following is my go-to prescription when I just can’t get out of an unhappy funk. Feel free to try a few ideas or to share some of your own!
1. Introvert= quiet place with alone time
2. Eat= pizza, ice cream and a glass of wine
3. Positive reminders= Happier podcast by Gretchen Rubin or positive quotes on Pinterest. (Cheesy but it works!)
Go to the Happier Podcast Here
4. Retail Therapy= A little stop at Target, maybe purchase that hat I’ve been looking at online for months.
5. Moral support= A long chat with my boyfriend or a phone call with mom and dad
6. Work out= Get back into my routine and get all of the built up frustration out. Exercise + Endorphins = Happiness!
B’s Work out Pinterest Board
Long story short, don’t take life so seriously. Sometimes we focus so much on the “bad” that we forget to be thankful for all of the GOOD. Right now, I am thankful for my new readers, and for you giving me the opportunity to share with you!